So unless you want to play the role of despondent-damsel-in-distress to his caring-if-not-slightly-condescending professional, tell this guy to take a hike. "Controlling people are usually very smooth at first," says Tessina. Why he's tempting: He's got all his hair and still fits in his 32-waist jeans. Why you should steer clear: So your 24-year-old babe says he "has a thing" for older women?"But after they charm you into bonding to them, the control can turn very unpleasant, and even lead to stalking or abuse." So consider yourself warned! And tells you you're so much hotter than the 22-year-olds he has dated. "These guys are just looking for a booty call—they save the real love for women closer to their own age," says New Yorker Joanne Morris, a 40-something who has dated several guys in their mid-twenties.And a heated trash-your-ex session can get you all hot and bothered—in a good way.Why you should steer clear: If he's still raging about how she did him wrong, he's got, ahem, some issues to sort out.
If you're still thinking about what your ex is doing or whom he's dating, you're too distracted to begin a healthy relationship.
“You can't heal unless you're on your own,” Tauber says.